Transcript of Live Meditation with Daaji | 11 June 2025 | 7 pm IST | Gurugram | Daaji | Heartfulness

guru Graham Ashram heartfully welcomes one and all with deep gratitude and open hearts we receive this day as a gift of grace and thank you Daji for blessing us with your presence today we have few new seekers who have joined us today at Gurugram ashum who would like to ask few questions from Nudaji if you'd permit [Music] pranami manu what defines the success in life for example if we take two individual at one time like our honorable prime minister his success may be providing the good vision to a At the same time if we talk about the ricksha puller his success would be having the bread and butter of the day so what defines a success is it the satisfaction of the thoughts of the minds or it's the fulfillment of the desires success to me it's a relative thing it keeps changing the meaning at every stage of our life as a child when you were four what did you understand about success lot of trophies and chocolates and little cars as we grow enter these prisons of schools our goals change and because of this changing in goals and depending upon how fast you attain those goals educational or academic goals you feel as if you are successful or not successful go further in your professional career are you making enough ultimately are you making enough so in every little field there is a some goal established but it keeps transcending it keeps on evading us the in the in the academic world when you are number two or number three or you want to maintain and go above perhaps there's no limit to it in professional career more you make you want to make more there is nothing wrong with it also spiritual success is something else more you lose better you become more you lose there is greater success within you so so now when you integrate material world where we seek more and more of more and more and spiritual realm we seek less and less of less and less or more and more of less and less there now this paradoxical understanding of more and more of more and more in the material world and more and more of less and less in the spiritual world now we have to integrate when you are able to integrate it then you can confidently say when you're breathing your last am I able to move with lot of content with the last breath because if you are successful in the material world while you're alive you feel happy but at that final moment when it will come you say So the success lies in integrating spiritual and material life even though you may not be successful in material life so much enough is enough that when that idea comes to your heart consider yourself you have succeeded to some extent thank you question from the sister's side if anyone from the sister side would like to ask prome fear especially as in during an argument when I find that somebody is getting too loud I feel as if I've frozen and I find myself incapable of coming up with a proper response so what happens if somebody shouts yeah if for example if somebody is getting quite rude or maybe somebody's responding not in not so pleasant manner how do I come up with a graceful response well you hit him hard again you see uh you just don't pull back and say I have to you know don't be scared but you know Gandhi used to say if somebody hits you on one cheek he would say offer the other one babuji Maharaj has a different approach he says if somebody hits you on one side you give a better one you know no don't hesitate so don't let anyone take advantage of you otherwise they'll step over and crush you so don't let that happen be proud and honor your pride mu and normally or and I'm here with my beautiful beautiful wife and both of you must respect your parents you have to respect her parents and she has to respect your parents let there be competition this is what Babuja Maharaj used to say they're not able to love their husbands for whatever reasons besides I would recommend you one book to read wisdom Bridge take it as my gift on your marriage and and master it you'll be very happy thank you it's a book all everyone should read who are going to be parents hopefully soon those who are already parents and those who are already grandparents it's a must book for all of them see yes ma'am intely [Music] or higher level experience it is also a form of desire but not able to overcome completely expect my attitude that's all no expectation even from God then you see how it changes your meditation it will your progress will be very fast once this idea sinks in your heart in a very authentic way that Ram drami uh so my question to you is uh what's happiness like I am 23 years old we are so embroiled and intertwined in our uh path towards life how we approach life we're so uh uh taken up with the thought of how to keep up with the expectations of our parents how to keep up with the expectations of ourselves the goals that we set for ourselves that every single time that I feel happy it just feels like it's just a momentary escape of happiness momentary escape from reality so what what truly is happiness happiness as I was sharing with someone right now and you must have heard me it's directly related with your success if I put very simply you know as you lessen reduce the numbers of desires in life your happiness will increase you know in a very provocative way i came up with one equation suppose if you had 10 desires and five desires were not fulfilled means five were fulfilled what do you call that 50% happiness just to make fun of the whole thing see and if out of 10 none are fulfilled so 10 divided by zero so zero happiness and when you have zero desire what will become it's not infinity but nowadays in mathematics they call it as indeterminant number you don't know what will happen see you can may consider it as infinity also so everything depends on that see and if she referred to one sloka from Gita it's very very thoughtful and very it's something that demands our contemplation krishna asks and answers with each progressive statement he makes he says "Can you be happy if you are restless you may have everything but you are restless for some reason you will lose that happiness would you remain calm under all circumstance calmness requires some level of harmony restless free restlessness free environment means harmonious and calm state right how can you arrive at that state he himself answers through a contemplative mind and how can you have the contemplative mind he says through a focused mind and how can you have the focused mind this is only through dana so now you connect the dots happiness and dana thank you i think enough of questions now you have wonderful